The Murderesses of Chivalry

Chivalry is dead” women whine. Well quite frankly ladies… you killed it.

First of all, I’d like to point out that chivalry is a medieval code of conduct for knighthood; it’s not a set of guidelines for your sugar daddy. That being said, you can’t expect your knight in shining armour to treat you like a lady when you strip him of his sword and shield. Here are 10 lessons women need to learn if they want revive modern day chivalry.

Being a feminist and being treated like a lady are not mutually exclusive.

The best thing about being a woman, is that you can go for a hike, break a sweat, splash through mud and come home, shower, put on a little black dress and be ready for an evening out. Women are versatile, adaptable, and intelligent. Don’t sell yourself short by thinking you’re doing feminism a favour by not wearing heels, or think that you’re a sell out because you want to be a stay at home mum. Embrace the true value of being a woman: embrace the fact that feminism means you can do everything and anything you want.

Encourage good behaviour.

Say thank you when men open doors, smile when they hold your hand, appreciate the value of a man who thinks enough of you to show he cares.

Keep your expectations high.

You are precious and you deserve to be treated so.

Act like a lady.

Stop gossiping to your friends about your man’s short comings or making jokes about how stupid men are. Learn to sit up straight, use proper table manners, walk with grace and confidence, sit with your legs closed, stop swearing incessantly, and never stop improving your mind. If you don’t know how to behave at a state dinner, you are only selling yourself short.

Stop embarrassing and belittling men who want to be good to you.

When a man opens a door for you, pulls out your chair, or offers you his hand when climbing out of a car, it does not mean that he thinks you need help. Men know perfectly well that women are capable of opening their own doors and doing far more challenging tasks. You wouldn’t want to be laughed at or put down for making a thoughtful gesture, so don’t do it to others.

Hold on to your femininity.

Women are bold. Women are kind. Women are loving. Women are nurturing. Women are intuitive. Women are wise. Women are strong. Women are women and that is what makes them beautiful. Never make the mistake of equating femininity with softness or weakness. It is our gentleness that men crave and our fire that they find irresistible. Don’t deny the world of your radiance.

Don’t date men with the intention of “fixing them”.

The biggest mistake women, particularly those with low self-esteem, make is believing they will be the exception to the rule. A woman will date a man knowing full well that he doesn’t treat women well on the bet that she will be the one to turn him around. Because how special is it when you become the woman he decides to stop lying to, or cheating on, or abandoning? Consciously or not, we know we have the power to heal and nurture and guide; and we’re drawn to these tortured souls thinking that our love will heal them. But be that as it may, don’t sacrifice yourself on the off chance that you can turn him into the man you want. If he doesn’t act like a gentleman, don’t waste your time. Devote your time to men who complete you, not the other way around.

Never invest in a relationship you wouldn’t want for your daughter.

You are worthy of high standards and men are capable of living up to them. Never settle.

Never allow any man to treat you in a way you would scold your son for.

Respect yourself and demand that same level of respect from others. You are a princess and deserve to be treated like one.

Be worthy of a gentleman.

There’s nothing flattering about a woman who has no original thoughts, is loud, bossy, obnoxious or has no class. Use your mind, your character, your personality to lure men, not your body. Be tasteful, be elegant, be thoughtful, be the best you can be.

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